Let me show u something
Love begins with those words….. they contain the escence of love. And i am happy that i got the answer that i was searching for so desperately for the question : What is love?
I am talking about love from a man’s point of view… i dont think it would be much different from a woman’s point of view. So this speaks for women as well.
I got this idea from a place where I dont think many people would find such a thing from. From the film ‘King Kong’ (i did not like the movie though). Another film which i would like to mention is ‘Million Dollar Baby’ adapted from F.X Toole’s wonderful work on the art and science of Boxing known as ‘Rope Burns’ (a must read for all the would be sports coaches out there). Another movie which really influenced me in this matter is the movie “Forrest Gump”, especially one specific dialogue in that particular movie.
Love’s deal is simple…… and i can see now why it just takes seconds to forge a bond that lasts a lifetime.
So here we go: What happens when u really fall in love with someone? The first words that come into almost everyone is the word share…. i never used to believe in that version but it surprised me when I started reasoning in the same angle.
‘To Share’ is the feeling that I recognized in King Kong when he takes the beautiful Ann Darrow on to his home and shares his beautiful view of the world from that place, and through that gesture he shares his part of the world with her.
‘To share’ is the feeling that i recognized in the dialogue that Forrest Gump has with the love of his life, Jenny Curran. Even though she never cared a bit about sharing her life with Forrest, Forrest always used to remember her….. and he tried to share with her every beautiful dream and thought that he had come to. Forrest Gump was a wonderful love story in that sense…. here is the dialogue in which Forrest shares his experiences and dreams.
Jenny Curran: Were you scared in Vietnam?
Forrest Gump: Yes. Well, I-I don’t know. Sometimes it would stop raining long enough for the stars to come out… and then it was nice. It was like just before the sun goes to bed down on the bayou. There was always a million sparkles on the water… like that mountain lake. It was so clear, Jenny, it looked like there were two skies one on top of the other. And then in the desert, when the sun comes up, I couldn’t tell where heaven stopped and the earth began. It’s so beautiful.
Jenny Curran: I wish I could’ve been there with you.
Forrest Gump: You were.
The question here is the issue of sharing. Unfortunately many people now take sharing for giving and receiving gifts… I think love takes the pride in a woman who shows off the latest gift from her boy-friend and also happiness of a guy showing off his new wrist watch gift from his girl-friend. Most guys would be happy if their girl-friends would be kind enough to let them show off the girl herself to his friends. Or there is a different kind of sharing that goes on… an exchange system… the guy gives the gal love to get sex in return… and the gal gives the guy sex to get loved in return. All this is fine even though it fails the test of rationality and thus obviously collapses in the long run… creating a lot of emotionally unstable people who search for ‘True Love’.
The truth is that I too was in search of ‘True Love’ for sometime and that too i was desperately searching for it. I went through all the versions i mentioned above…. until i was deep in thought about why is there a ‘True Love’ when i assumed that love is one of the most sanest and the most rational things that one should be doing. Everything was confusing…. and that made it all the more interesting. I was searching for some meaning in whatever i remembered of my relationship with my ex-girlfriend.
Then I saw the Movie ‘King Kong’ in San Diego. It was filled with monsters and its a big mess of a movie. But it had that element of ‘True Love’ which i was desperately searching for, and more than graphics it was that human element of Love that captured my imagination.
It got me thinking.
if i were to love a woman what would be the most rational thing to share, What would be the most valuble gift to present her? The rational answer is this: I would gift her the work of my life. I would give her an opportunity to be with me when I see some of the most beautiful sights in my life.
The most beautiful sights obviously are not the ones that everyone can see if they go to say Himalayas or Switzerland.The most beautiful gift that i can give to a woman is not gonna be some Jewellery or a car or a house. It is going to be the work of my life. It would present her an opportunity to be a part of my struggle and my journey towards my destination. It would present her a view of a dream that only i have seen and no one else has seen. So love is going to be sharing my dream, my vision. Its not sacrifice as shown in the countless trite movies out there.. Its not about giving up your dreams for the sake of love… its about living ur dreams and then share them with your woman. Love is not about chains that hold u to a woman. It is the one that frees u from the irrationalities of the world. Love does not give u a shoulder to lay your head and cry. Love gives u an opportunity to hold someones hand and give her the best of what u can give anyone. Love is not about taking your time off your work and going out to shop or to a movie.. love is about sharing the fruits of your the work of your life by giving your work all the time that it requires. Love is not about saying :” I would do anything for u my love!!”. Its about saying “Let me show you something, my love; The work of my life, The best of what i can give u”. Love is not chains… its freedom.
Once you find such a person to share your dreams with. Will you ever think of leaving her. Once you find such a person will you ever cheat on her, will u ever disrespect her. This is the only kind of love that i recognize. There is no other love and no other emotion qualifies to be called as ‘True Love’. Infact there is no other love. So there is no ‘True Love’. It means that most people out there ‘Love’ are not in Love and when they screw up they go in search of ‘True Love’ or unconditional love(this also means that many people think that there is something called ‘False Love’ too!!).
I think the most beautiful woman is the one who can understand what I live for. Who can understand what I am offering her, who can appreciate the ’sanctity’ of the offer to share my life rather than the one who expects me to give her some random gift like some Jewellery. Love is about understanding the reason of each others existence and then undersatanding that each offers the best of what they can.
So the next time you see someone who can understand what u live for, and you feel like sharing everything with her… start with the words :-” Let me show you something!!!!!! The work of my life!!!!!”